Purging the toxic people is so imperative but it is difficult. For years after giving my life to Christ I held onto horribly toxic relationships out of comfort. Well I have slowly but surely purged many of the toxic friendships and relationships in my life. Since then I have grown a great deal spiritually. I am so peaceful now. If you cringe at the sight of a certain friend or person calling you or texting you that is a sign. You should be happy to see a call or text from someone who lifts you up, pours into your life, and encourages you. If you frequently walk away from a person drained emotionally you need to evaluate. Of course everyone goes through trials and hard times but a consistent energy vampire will drain the life right out of you.
What I found is that I couldn't just eliminate people from my life by telling them they sucked. I had to wait for an opportunity and a real reason to leave the relationship. After years and years of digs, condescending abuse, manipulation, drug abuse, adultery, and the list goes on and on and on. I had to look for a way out and then take it.
I think because I am a single woman I look to my friendships to fill the gap where I lack in a marital relationship. Which isn't necessarily right but it is what happens. In years past I have looked at collecting people. Getting lots of friendships and relationships to feel valued and important. As God has allowed me to wean the negative relationships out of my life I have visual clarity into what healthy relationships look like. Including the #1, my relationship with God.
Purging the toxic people can be painful, lonely, difficult, and down-right hard but I believe it is imperative for my life personally.
Cheers! to writing people off.
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I just returned from visiting my parents. I'm afraid my father may be one of the toxic people in my life. This makes me sad.
I started saying this prayer or affirmation. I don't know what to call it, but I say it often: "only good people come into my life, only good people with good intentions, who want the best for me and for my family."
I started saying this maybe a year ago and it was very interesting to see how the "bad" ones went away on their own! I didn't have to say or do anything.
I normally say this when I'm cleaning my house, I don't know why. I add, "only good people come into this house, only good things happen in this house."
My favorite line..." What I found is that I couldn't just eliminate people from my life by telling them they sucked". Hahaha...why do books have to go and ruin everything ;) Jk, I guess that approach might work but I your right...it isnt the most healthy way. Glad you have been able to get out of those negative relationships and instead enjoy the great ones!
What you said about cringing when certain people call really registered with me, and a few people came to mind. The difficult part is going to be removing those toxic relationships, but I like what Mariza said, and I'm going to add her little prayer to my daily devotions.
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